Prosper With Aspergers: Seeking Work and Relationship Solutions - Latest Comments

Re: 2 Homework Help Tips That Will Actually Make Your Life Easier

Barry Marks — Thu, 02 Jun 2022 07:27:40 -0000

Great tips! Online help is a great way to improve assignment quality. It helps students learn how to write better and also provides a place for them to ask questions about what they are doing wrong. If a student has questions about their writing, they can ask tutors on platforms like Sweetstudy or Khan academy and get the answers that they need.

Re: What Is Aspergers?

Invincible Rohan — Mon, 28 Mar 2022 07:04:05 -0000

Thank You for Creating This Blog for such a serious Topic...

Re: Aspergers and Depression: What Everybody Ought To Know

Peach Sutton — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 11:11:40 -0000

Under "Structure" your hot link for a list of pleasurable activities does not go to a list of pleasurable activities. It goes to a site written in a foreign language with advertisements for online poker.

Re: TWAP093: Why You Want To Know About Activities of Daily Living

Andrew Ward — Tue, 24 Dec 2019 09:03:22 -0000

Hi Stephen, I’m not sure this message will reach you, but as an Aspie myself I’ve found your podcasts and site to be of real help and I want to be part of the thrive with aspergers community but it looks like the podcasts have discontinued and the web links to the show notes don’t work, this made me anxious that I may not have access to important information to help me coping with a hard time in my life, I really want to be a part of the community and I don’t want you to give up on us all. Tell me what can we do to ensure the future success of thrive with aspergers? 😲

Re: If You’re Lonely, Find An Aspergers Support Group

disqus_w6R77UQW8f — Fri, 01 Nov 2019 02:49:05 -0000

People are scared of what they don't understand. Neuro-typical people find us eccentric and just downright weird. They will even try to make you feel bad for just being yourself.

Re: How To Teach Your Kids Self-Regulation Skills

Drew Harrison — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 12:41:09 -0000

Fidget toys work well.

Re: If You’re Lonely, Find An Aspergers Support Group

Kaitlyn Wendel — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:03:19 -0000

Hi! will you guys please help me understand why everyone calls Asperger's a Disability? I'm tired of people telling me to hide myself. I want to feel validated, I feel so alone right now. My own mom is like "fix it" and I can't fix it- you can't just fix your brain, and I shouldn't have to. I know I have this challenge for a reason.

Re: Aspergers in Adults

JCCook — Mon, 23 Sep 2019 08:28:06 -0000

Very nervous joining facebook .

Re: Have You Seen These 7 Aspergers Dating Tips?

gapinthetraffic — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 12:05:22 -0000

Has anyone tried https://www.asdating.org? It's a completely free site for people on the spectrum to find a partner - be that in friendship or love. There's a diverse range of members and is worth a look if that's what you're interested in.

Re: TWAP092: 5 Burnout Recovery Tips You Need To Learn Now

Kate — Sat, 07 Sep 2019 19:15:01 -0000

This was SO amazingly helpful for me.

I'm 38. I was diagnosed 3 years ago. I never felt very aspie and many people don't believe I have autism (particularly my mom). I just moved across the country to a bigger city (from Minneapolis to LA), started dating a truly wonderful person, was traveling weekly for work until recently, and have more responsibilities at work. I think of these as traditional hallmarks of "success."

And I started acting super "autistic" and having meltdowns every day. These things that used to be little hints of something are now ever-present. It's confusing. It's terrifying. It's angering. I feel like a different person.

So much of what's available for autism (that I've been able to find) is for kids. Or their parents. There's so little for adults. And so little for adults who found out as adults and are trying to figure out how to function. I don't need apps that create a visual schedule. I need things like this. Nuanced - recognizing that many of us "pass" or never had the support systems that kids today have and haven't figured anything out yet.

I still feel scared. And lost. And angry. And don't know how to face the prospect of continuing meltdowns several times a week. But I feel like I have a starting place and this has brought me some peace.

Thank you so much for providing these resources. You fill a tremendous void in the autism community. And you're probably accompanied by others who are doing wonderful things as well to help this quirky subset. But you're desperately needed and I appreciate you so much.

Thank you with my full heart.

Re: What Is Aspergers?

Rose Swan — Wed, 01 May 2019 22:42:56 -0000

Hi Brian, sounds like you were having a pretty bad day a couple months ago. Are you still feeling the same way? Some days I'm pretty uncomfortable in my own skin, especially when people get upset at me and I dont even know why.

Rose

Re: Start Here

Ginger Foxx — Mon, 01 Apr 2019 15:52:10 -0000

Want to make friends! I have Asperger Syndrome, and it's super hard to talk to people. I am a Trump supporter, and conservative.And cherry on top of that sundae I live in California. Don't even pretend that where I live has nothing to do with it. Majority I do try to talk to believe the people that voted for him or either stupid or racist! When it's the same people that voted in Obama that voted in Trump! I am black and I'm 18. I don't watch cable news, I don't do social media, and I don't keep up on trending events; for example music, movies,tv shows.HELP IS NEEDED!

Re: What Is Aspergers?

Brian Surewood — Mon, 18 Feb 2019 16:16:13 -0000

The title of your webpage makes me sick! There is no way to thrive with Asperger's, If you want to help people, stop the stupid perspective taking and social skills training put your efforts into curing the damn thing, idiots!

Re: TWAP092: 5 Burnout Recovery Tips You Need To Learn Now

Michelle — Sun, 10 Feb 2019 01:59:37 -0000

Thank you! While researching my daughters suspected high functioning autism, I found she inherited it from me. I have Aspergers. At 51, I'm sad, confused, curious, angry and, depending on the day, interested in learning. I stumbled upon this podcast and have listened to almost every one in the last three days. I've found it enlightening.
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Jules Akers — Wed, 30 Jan 2019 17:38:46 -0000

Could you please stop emailing me?

Re: What Is Aspergers?

Stu Mountjoy — Sat, 12 Jan 2019 19:01:12 -0000

Thank you Steve, for your most recent entry "Where Have I been?" - recently one of my cousins got married, and this youtube video (https://www.youtube.com/wat... shows where and how the day was.

Re: Avoid This Aspergers Relationships Trap

Hurlanator — Sat, 05 Jan 2019 03:24:08 -0000

I have an interesting one for you, My wife and I are both aspies. We could write that list on each other.

Re: Here Are 5 Useful Tools for Autism Marriage Help

Go Access Ltd — Wed, 02 Jan 2019 07:36:12 -0000

Some great tips and tools. Thanks for sharing. Invaluable advice

Re: TWAP093: Why You Want To Know About Activities of Daily Living

Stu Mountjoy — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 13:18:53 -0000

That is the 64 million-dollar question, as they say. But recently I did try to let my parents know that certain ways "don't work" and other ways are better. It's tricky for me to say "this particular way works" until I find a way that does. Sometimes religion has (on certain days) given me the right "push". A push that (to me) doesn't feel like a push, feels like a gentle nudge while I am already feeling productive.

Re: TWAP093: Why You Want To Know About Activities of Daily Living

steveborgman — Thu, 22 Nov 2018 09:55:43 -0000

Stu, thanks so much for your feedback. I'm curious: what is the best way that your parents or other loved ones in your life could "remind" you without triggering passive agressive mode?

Re: TWAP093: Why You Want To Know About Activities of Daily Living

Stu Mountjoy — Tue, 30 Oct 2018 19:54:48 -0000

I have had a LOT of difficulty with basic duties, and sometimes even mowing the lawn is (in my opinion) completely down to "mindset" (how I feel on any given day). If someone calls me to fix their computer, BOING I have energy. Probably because I love using computers. But remind me (in any tone, good or bad) to mow the lawns, and I switch to passive-aggressive mode.

I have even had the terrible situation of "I am going to mow the lawns", all set to do it, lawnmower filled with petrol, about to start - Mum calls or texts me TO mow the lawns - to be fair, she's not a mindreader, she did not know that I was right in the middle of it. But I went from "going to" to "rebel teenager" in one minute.

Sometimes I have had to "see the wood for the trees" in order to get things done - and my non-spectrum family have tried. Things like "your brother's visiting, wouldn't you want him to see a tidy house when he gets here?" or "when was the last time you vacuumed the living room floor?"

One example was last week - three days, all with text reminders from my mother, "do the lawns" or "it's a nice day to mow the lawns" or even "THE LAWNS", LOL. Each of those three days, I was challenged about doing the lawns, each of those days my mother was correct, but two of those days I felt "don't bug me" and one of those days I felt "I will do the lawns", and mowed ONE of the three lawns I have. I could've mowed one lawn each day, and my father or brother would certainly have taken that approach.

I would like to say, it CAN (to me) feel like a big thing, just making the bed - you can go from "I don't want to, but I have to" to "glad it was done" when it IS over.

Re: Help Your Asperger’s Child With These Top Activities, Games, and Tools

Elaine Ritchie — Wed, 03 Oct 2018 13:48:30 -0000

Do you think the Chew Stix pencil toppers are appropriate for someone in high school?

Re: TWAP90: How To Improve Your Wellbeing 3 Integrative Health Tips

KL — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 14:06:43 -0000

Do you have any tips on how to talk to doctors? I just can't talk to health care professionals. Other people say "just go to the doctor" but when I finally work up the nerve or desperation to go, I forget everything when I get there. I try to answer the questions truthfully. Sometimes the questions don't make sense. It seems like they are waiting for me to say code words I don't know. I don't even understand how other people decide when to go. Does anyone have a cheat sheet for all this *motions hands wildly* is supposed to work?

Re: TWAP092: 5 Burnout Recovery Tips You Need To Learn Now

Adam — Tue, 25 Sep 2018 12:37:20 -0000

what is anyone's view on CBT and Hypnosis thank You

Re: TWAP092: 5 Burnout Recovery Tips You Need To Learn Now

Full Spectrum Mama — Tue, 25 Sep 2018 12:36:19 -0000

Oh yes. YES.

It was only in my forties, just after I found out my son was on the spectrum, that I reached my limit for passing.

And I am so grateful I did: Knowing who I am and caring for myself are a birthright for all people. I just need to do those things a bit differently -- and I am learning how, bit by bit.

This is a super-helpful piece in that process -- thank you.